Meeting relatives is fun, but also has its downsides. For example: Frequently asked nosy questions. Yes, “Where’s your girlfriend/boyfriend?”, “Have you graduated yet?”, and so on. Sometimes it gets really annoying, doesn’t it?
How do you usually respond to these questions? Below are a few tips that might prove useful.
1. Answer with another question.
This one is a rather aggressive approach in answering the questions. It may be impolite to some people, so be careful.
If you’re asked by a cousin or relative of the same age, you can use this method. Don’t forget to add laughter or a smile to make it less threatening.
2. Comment on the question rather than answering.
“That’s a good question.” sounds like you’re answering a question regarding your presentation. But it works most of the time, because the people who ask you these questions mostly just making small talk.
Or you could simply say “Let’s just hope for the best.” and add a meaningful smile at the end of your statement.
3. Pass the answer to said question to another person. (my personal favorite)
Almost every time someone drops an annoying question, I directed the question to anyone around me.
- Q: When are you going to get married?
- A: Just ask Mom. She’s my decision maker.
Another form of this method is to direct the question to someone that isn’t even there. For example, direct it to your boyfriend or girlfriend or anyone that isn’t related to you but might influence your decision.
4. Pretend you don’t understand the question.
Act puzzled. Act dumb. Or at least ask the questioner to repeat the question. As I said before, most people aren’t that curious with your life. They are just making small talk. But if they insist, they will be baffled by your inability to respond to their question. They will get tired eventually.
5. Answer honestly, if you want to.
This is probably the best approach if you want to convert the small talk into something more serious. If you have the honest answer and are not tired of answering the question, just answer the question.
6. Just smile (and wave).
Smile. Smile. Smile. And then probably divert the question into another subject. It’s just like The Penguins of Madagascar: Just smile and wave, boys. Smile and wave.
Drop a comment if you have more tips to add.
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