In this opportunity, I want to share to you about “polite and not polite”. I think this is important, so pay attention, please. :)
What does being polite mean?
- Being polite means showing consideration for the feelings or wishes of others.
- Sometimes we have to be more polite than at other times.
- In general, the people we wish to be more polite to are ‘important’ people or strangers.
- The usual rule is: ‘The more words you use, the more polite you are!’
isn’t that definition refer to “being considerate” – @lyrsafira
Yes, being polite also means being considerate & respectful. – @EnglishTips4U
Let’s see these examples:
- Not polite: ‘Min, reply my DM!’
- Polite: ‘Hi, min. Could you please reply my DM? Thanks a bunch.’
Which of the two sentences is more likely to get a response from our admin? Can you see the difference, fellas?
The more words you use, the more polite the sentence gets. Take a look at the picture for examples.
It’s not necessary to be so very polite to friends, equals, or members of our family, unless they are old. To make a sentence a little more polite, you can add ‘please.’ Also, you can offer an explanation for your request.
Let’s see this example:
“My campus is going to hold an event and we need your help. Could you please check your DM? Thank you.”
Usually you will be more polite to people such as your boss, teacher, and also to people you don’t know well, old people, etc.
If you want to be very polite, like talking to a stranger, you can say:
- ‘Would you mind + V-ing ?’
- ‘Could you possibly + V1 ?’
In requests, it is generally polite to use a question form, and a tentative form like ‘would.’
Another way to be polite is to give a hint, so that the other person can guess what you want.
Let’s see this example:
- A: ‘Hi, B. We can’t seem to find your email.’
- B: ‘Oh, do you want me to resend my email?’
- A: ‘Yes, please.’
In English, it is polite to:
- Greet people when you see them.
- Talk about them first.
- Use ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’
- Say ‘sorry’ if you do anything wrong, however small.
- Say ‘excuse me’ if you ask someone in the street.
Well, that’s all this lesson on ‘polite & not polite’. Hope it’s useful. Don’t forget to practice what you have learned. :)
Source: An A – Z of English Grammar & Usage by Geoffrey Leech et al.
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